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Saturday, July 19, 2008

Oops!

Rachel-"You conniving bitch. How could you do this? You were supposed to be my friend. When all along you were just using me to get to him! Behind my back" There was tears falling furiously down my cheeks now. I was so upset I really didn't understand. Jasmine and Will: it was like Marmite and Peanut Butter Jelly. It just didn’t go together. No matter in how many perspectives you looked at it. Will was a bastard for hitting on a girl who was a year younger than him and she was a slut for seducing a boy a year older than her. I had decided this as soon as I caught them saliva swapping in my bedroom. I hated the both of them. I didn't care whose fault it was I just hated them so much."Rachel calm down""Don't tell me to calm down. I don't want to hear it" I did a 180 degree turn and ran out the room the down the stairs and out the door. I didn't where I was going I just knew that I was not staying there. I had my bankcard on me so would be fine - until the money ran out.

Jasmine-I feel like shit. I don't believe what just happened it feels like a huge nightmare. I hazily pinch myself just to check it's real. I don't want it to be. Because if it is, it means that I just lost a friend. I feel a cold hand squash over my heart, my lips tingle from where Will kissed me, my eyes burn, and my fingers are clutched like a vice over Will's sweaty palms. My senses are fuzzy and things only start to clear as I notice Will's heavy breathing. I want to say something but I can't. I want to cry but I can't. I want to show some form of emotion but I just can't. I feel so guilty mostly because deep in my heart if I had a chance to do everything again I would still have kissed Will. I can't explain why. I can't explain the feeling deep in my heart that I felt when our lips merged. Eventually Will unclasps my fingers from their vice grip and wraps his arms around me. I feel confused for a brief moment till I realized tears are falling rapidly from my eyes. A deep hollow feeling which settled over me is now filled and I suddenly wish he hadn't hugged me the hollow feeling was better than the pain I feel right now. I started crying with my whole being, my shoulders shook and my vision fogged."Don't cry she is just in shock. She'll come round" I give myself a mental shake and drag myself from his embrace. I attempt to compose myself (you know wipe my tears ECT.)"What are we going to do" I say shakily"Wait for her" he said slowly and calmly. I wanted to slap him. Rachel had just run away and he was saying we should wait for her to come back as if she had just popped to the corner shop! I breathed deeply knowing that loosing my temper wasn't going to solve anything."I'm going home" I said not wanting to go but knowing that if I stayed any longer I would become infatuated with Will. I had to keep my distance."Yeah I think that will be best""Bye" I said, turning and walking through Rachel's doorway. I had never felt so depressed and sad in my life.

Will-…………Was that a cock up and half. I have never ever seen Raych(Rachel as she is called by me) so angry in my life. And I can’t say that she is over-reacting as it’s not everyday your first real best friend shacks up with your brother in the 2nd week of your friendship. I have no idea what to do. I am definitely going to look for her. I just had to get rid of Jasmine first so IF! (And that is a big if)I find her I would be able to talk to her and maybe convince her to come home. She has never run away from home before and there are a lot of things that could happen to a girl of her age at this time of the day. It was almost 6:00pm. I am scared shitless. First I have to look for her bankcard. If I can’t find it I will be calm because then at least I know she will be able to book herself into a hotel or something for the night. I look everywhere for her card but I can’t find it neither can I find her bus pass. I heave a sigh of relief. While standing in her room I replay all the events of this afternoon. I realize things with Jasmine will cause some turbulence to me and Raych’s relationship but to be honest I don’t think I am going to be able to give up Jasmine. To put it frankly: Jasmine is hot! I know she is a year younger than me but age has never bothered me before so why should it now. I know Rachel is upset but she has to see it from my point of view: Jasmine is hot!

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Status of Women in Indian Society

Abstract: The worth of a civilization can be judged by the place given to women in the society. One of several factors that justify the greatness of India's ancient culture is the honorable place granted to women. The Muslim influence on India caused considerable deterioration in the status of women. They were deprived of their rights of equality with men. Raja Ram Mohan Roy started a movement against this inequality and subjugation. The contact of Indian culture with that of the British also brought improvement in the status of women. The third factor in the revival of women's position was the influence of Mahatma Gandhi who induced women to participate in the Freedom Movement. As a result of this retrieval of freedom, women in Indian have distinguished themselves as teachers, nurses, air-hostesses, booking clerks, receptionists, and doctors. They are also participating in politics and administration. But in spite of this amelioration in the status of women, the evils of illiteracy, dowry, ignorance, and economic slavery would have to be fully removed in order to give them their rightful place in Indian society.


The worth of a civilization can be judged from the position that it gives to women. Of the several factors that justify the greatness of India's ancient culture, one of the greatest is the honoured place ascribed to women. Manu, the great law-giver, said long ago, 'where women are honoured there reside the gods'. According to ancient Hindu scriptures no religious rite can be performed with perfection by a man without the participation of his wife. Wife's participation is essential to any religious rite. Married men along with their wives are allowed to perform sacred rites on the occasion of various important festivals. Wives are thus befittingly called 'Ardhangani' (betterhalf). They are given not only important but equal position with men.
But in the later period the position of women went on deteriorating due to Muslim influence. During the Muslim period of history they were deprived of their rights of equality with men. They were compelled to keep themselves within the four walls of their houses with a long veil on their faces. This was definitely due to Islamic influence. Even today in some Islamic countries women are not allowed to go out freely. The conservative regimes of Iran and Pakistan, for example, have withdrawn the liberties given to women folk by the previous liberal governments. Even in India the Muslim women are far more backward than their Hindu, Christian and Sikh counterparts. The sight of Muslim women walking with long 'Burkas' (veils) on their person is not very rare. The women are, as a matter of fact, regarded as captive and saleable commodities in Muslim families. One man is allowed to have so many wives with the easiest provision of divorce. The husband can divorce a wife just by saying 'I divorce you' under the provision of Muslim laws. This is what the emperors did hundred years back and the men are doing it even now in almost all Islamic countries. Even in this last phase of the twentieth century rich and prosperous men of Islamic countries keep scores of wives in their harems. It was natural outcome of the Muslim subjugation of India that woman was relegated to a plaything of man, an ornament to decorate the drawing room. Serving, knitting, painting and music were her pastimes and cooking and cleaning her business.
In the wake of Raja Ram Mohan Roy's movement against women's subjugation to men and British influence on Indian culture and civilization the position of women had once again undergone a change. However, it was only under the enlightened leadership of Mahatma Gandhi that they re-asserted their equality with men. In response to the call of Gandhi they discarded their veil and came out of the four walls of their houses to fight the battle of freedom shoulder to shoulder with their brothers. The result is that the Indian Constitution today has given to women the equal status with men. There is no discrimination between men and women. All professions are open to both of them with merit as the only criterion of selection.
As a result of their newly gained freedom Indian woman have distinguished themselves in various spheres of life as politicians, orators, lawyers, doctors, administrators and diplomats. They are not only entrusted with work of responsibility but also they perform their duties very honestly and sincerely. There is hardly any sphere of life in which Indian women have not taken part and shown their worth. Women exercise their right to vote, contest for Parliament and Assembly, seek appointment in public office and compete in other spheres of life with men. This shows that women in India enjoy today more liberty and equality than before. They have acquired more liberty to participate in the affairs of the country. They have been given equality with men in shaping their future and sharing responsibilities for themselves, their family and their country.
It is a fact that women are intelligent, hard-working and efficient in work. They put heart and soul together in whatever they undertake. As typists and clerks they are now competing successfully with men. There are many women working in the Central Secretariat. They are striving very hard to reach highest efficiency and perfection in the administrative work. Their integrity of character is probably better than men. Generally it was found that women are less susceptible to corruption in form of bribery and favouritism. They are not only sweet tongued but also honest, efficient and punctual in their jobs as receptionists, air-hostesses and booking clerks at railway reservation counters. As a matter of fact they are gradually monopolising the jobs of receptionists and air-hostesses.
Another job in which Indian women are doing so well is that of teachers. In country like India where millions are groping in the darkness of illiteracy and ignorance efficient teaching to the children is most urgently needed. By virtue of their love and affection for the children the women have proved the best teachers in the primary and kindergarten schools. They can better understand the psychology of a child than the male teachers. Small children in the kindergarten schools get motherly affection from the lady teachers. It is probably significant that the Montessori system of education is being conducted mostly by the women in this country.
Women have been serving India admirably as doctors and nurses. Lady doctors have been found to perform efficient surgery by virtue of their soft and accurate fingers. They have monopolised as nurses in the hospitals and nursing homes. Very few men have been able to compete with them in this sphere because the women have natural tendency to serve and clean. It is thus natural tendency found in women which motivated Florence Nightingale to make nursing popular among the women of the upper classes in England and in Europe. She showed the way to women kind how nobly they can serve humanity in the hours of sufferings and agonies.
Women's contributions in politics and social services have also been quite significant. We cannot fail to mention the name of Indira Gandhi who shone so brilliantly and radiantly in the firmament of India's politics. She ruled this country for more than a decade and took India victorious out of Pakistan-war which resulted in the historic creation of a new country, Bangladesh. In the field of social service Indian women have also done some excellent jobs. They have not only served the cause of the suffering humanity but have also brought highest laurels for the country. The name of Mother Teressa cannot but be mentioned. She brought the Nobel Prize for India by her selfless services to the poor, destitute and suffering people of our country in particular and the needy and handicapped people of the world in general. Today, we need the services of the educated women who can tour throughout the country and help in removing human sufferings. The Government is alarmed at the rapid growth of population in the rural areas in particular. Women volunteers can more easily take up the task of canvassing the advantages of family planning among the rural womenfolk. They can, more easily than men, carry on propaganda against hazards of unhygienic conditions under which the villagers live. In urban areas they can efficiently take up the task of visiting and teaching the orphans and the helpless widows in the orphanages and the widow welfare centres. They can train them in sewing, knitting, embroidery and nursing in which women by nature excel. They can also train them in the art of music and dancing.
But all this should not lead us to conclude that the women should look down upon domestic life. The main sphere of action for them who have not taken up jobs outside should be essentially a happy home which is their real kingdom and where their sweet manners and mature advices as wife, mother, sister and daughter make tremendous effects on the male members of the family. The progress of a nation depends upon the care and skill with which mothers rear up their children. The first and foremost duty of Indian women should, therefore, be to bring forth noble generations of patriots, warriors, scholars and statesmen. Since child's education starts even in the womb and the impressions are formed in the mind of a child while in mothers arms women have to play a role of vital importance. They have to feel and realise at every step of their life that they are builders of the fate of our nation since children grow mainly in mothers arms. They should also discourage their husbands and sons from indulging in bribery and other corrupt practices. This they can do only when they learn the art of simple living by discarding their natural desires for ornaments and a living of pomp and show. In many cases families have been running in deficit due to the extravagance of the housewives in maintaining a high standard of living. The result is that the earning male members of the family are forced to fill up the gap in the budget by corrupt practices. Corruption has been so far the greatest impediment in way to India's progress. Minus corruption India would have been one of the most developed nations of the world.
There is no denying the fact that women in India have made a considerable progress in the last fifty years but yet they have to struggle against many handicaps and social evils in the male dominated society. The Hindu Code Bill has given the daughter and the son equal share of the property. The Marriage Act no longer regards woman as the property of man. Marriage is now considered to be a personal affair and if a partner feels dissatisfied she or he has the right of divorce. But passing of law is one thing and its absorption in the collective thinking of society is quite a different matter. In order to prove themselves equal to the dignity and status given to them in the Indian Constitution they have to shake off the shackles of slavery and superstitions. They should help the government and the society in eradicating the evils of dowry, illiteracy and ignorance among the eves. The dowry problem has assumed a dangerous form in this country. The parents of the girls have to pay thousands and lacs to the bridegrooms and their greedy fathers and mothers. If promised articles are not given by the parents of brides, the cruel and greedy members of the bridegrooms' family take recourse to afflicting tortures on the married women. Some women are murdered in such cases. The dowry deaths are really heinous and barbarous crimes committed by the cruel and inhumane persons. The young girls should be bold enough in not marrying the boys who demand dowry through their parents. The boys should also refuse to marry if their parents demand dowry. But unfortunately the number of such bold and conscientious boys is very few. Even the doctors, engineers, teachers and the administrative officers do not hesitate in allowing themselves to be sold to the wealthy fathers of shy and timid girls. Such persons have really brought disgrace to their cadres in particular and society in general. The government should enact stringent laws to afflict rigorous punishment on dowry seekers, women's murderers and rapers.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Prostitution & Sex Tourism

What are Prostitution & Sex Tourism?
Prostitution and sex tourism fall under a more general category of sexual exploitation. Sexual exploitation happens when one person (or persons) receives sex or money through abusing another person's sexuality. For an example of prostitution, a man may receive sex and a pimp may receive money by using a woman as a prostitute. In sex tourism, an American man may pay a sex travel agency for a trip to Thailand which includes airfare, hotel, food, and women for sex. Prostitution can include traditional forms of prostitution (through a brothel, the military, or on the streets), and also sex tourism, sex trafficking, and mail order bride selling.
. Who is affected by Prostitution & Sex Tourism?
It is difficult to estimate how many people are working in prostitution because so many women working as waitresses, hotel maids, salesclerks, bar girls, and golf caddies are forced into prostitution as part of their work. In Thailand, it has been estimated that at least 200,000 women and children work in prostitution. At least one-third of Thai prostitutes are under the age of 18, and most adult prostitutes started when they were only children. Children as young as six years old work in prostitution. Prostitutes are primarily women and girls, although some men and boys also work in prostitution.
Many of the children who work in prostitution come from extremely poor families -- the child's work as a prostitute may feed her entire family.Women and children may also be illegal trafficked from one country to another under the belief that they will find work in another country. Their traffickers force them to pay a high price, and to work in prostitution on their arrivals in order to pay for their travel.
How do Prostitution & Sex Tourism affect health?
Physical Health
The sexual health of women and children in prostitution is severely harmed in many ways:
Increased risk of HIV/AIDS
Risk of sexually transmitted infections
Risk of unwanted pregnancy
Vaginal tearing
Violence
Rape
Physical abuse
Confinement
Mental Health
Prostitution is a violation of women's human rights, and treats women as objects. The pain of being treated so poorly can lead to depression and resignation. The state of girls' mental health is best illustrated by Poppy, quoted in The Child and the Tourist by Ron O'Grady:
"I found myself dancing at a club at the age of 11... I have had different kinds of customers, foreigners and Filipinos. I tried suicide but it didn't work so I turned to drugs. I want to die before my next birthday." Prostitution teaches men to view women as objects. Thus not only are women and children who are prostitutes harmed, but all women are harmed by prostitution.
Why do Prostitution & Sex Tourism affect Third World Women more than others?
Prostitution has become an industry in Thailand with the major help of the United States military and the World Bank. During the Vietnam War, the U.S. Department of Defense had a contract with the Thai government to provide "Recreation & Relaxation" for U.S. soldiers. With money from the U.S. government, local Thai prostitution organized and expanded into a major industry. In 1975, the World Bank built an economic plan for Thailand around the sex tourism industry, which helped turn sex tourism into the country's number one export. Prostitution has now become such an important industry, that work to end prostitution must also support the growth of new industries.
How are people working to solve the problem of Prostitution & Sex Tourism?
Criminalizing prostitution
Although prostitution is illegal in Thailand, it is often protected by law enforcement agencies. When prostitution is illegal, it often means that it is illegal for a woman to be a prostitute, but not illegal for a man to pay a prostitute. This continues to harm the woman who is in prostitution, instead of helping her find ways out of prostitution. It also gives men free license to continue to find other women to exploit. When making prostitution illegal, the roles should be switched; men should be arrested for purchasing a prostitute, while women should not be thrown in jail for being a prostitute.
Promoting policies that address prostitution
Governments have a role in prosecuting companies that sell sex tourist packages. For example, in New York, prostitution laws state that: "a person is guilty of promoting prostitution in the third degree when he knowingly advances or profits from prostitution by managing, supervising, controlling or owning...a prostitution business or enterprise involving prostitution activity by two or more prostitutes...." Sex tourism agencies originating in New York could be prosecuted under this law.
The World Bank has a role in addressing prostitution when it is loaning $1.9 billion US dollars to Thailand for projects. Its of supporting sex tourism in Thailand makes it unlikely that current policy critically considers the effects of sex tourism on women in children. In fact, the Thailand do not even mention the sex tourism industry or prostitution. Projects to improve the lives of women and children in Thailand cannot work if the role of sex tourism is not addressed.
Increasing opportunities in education and employment
Women and children are not freely choosing the work in prostitution; it is a "choice" based purely on the economics of food and shelter. Girls who work as prostitutes in Thailand can provide for their entire family, while most other jobs cannot. It will take economic change to help women and children seriously considering leaving the sex tourism industry. Jobs must be available that can provide for families, and people must be trained to do them. New industry must replace the current sex industry to enact real change for women and children in prostitution.
What is being done right now about Prostitution & Sex Tourism?
Ms. Magazine recently compiled a list of resources to stop sex trafficking, many of which appear here (or lead to resources that appear here).
Coalition Against Trafficking in Women "works internationally to oppose all forms of sexual exploitation." Actions include support for Coalition Against Prostitution, Child Abuse & Trafficking. Gives Thai-based organizations space to document their work on poverty, prostitution, and child labor, in order to compel people to take action. Based in Thailand .The Center for the Protection of Children's Rights: Advocates for abused children, and works to stop trafficking. Based in Thailand directed at United States officials to prosecute sex tourism companies. Based in the United States.

'50,000 Iraqi refugees' forced into prostitution

Women and girls, many alarmingly young, who fled the chaos at home are being further betrayed after reaching 'safety' in Syria
It's Monday night in a dingy club on the outskirts of the Syrian capital. Two dozen girls are moving half-heartedly on the dance floor, lit up by flashing disco lights.
They are dessed in tight jeans, low-cut tops and knee-high boots, but the girls' make-up can't disguise the fact that most are in their mid-teens. It's a strange sight in a conservative Muslim country, but this is the sex business, and it's booming as a result of the war in Iraq.
Backstage, the manager sits in his leather chair, doing business. A Saudi client is quoted $500 for one of the girls. Eventually he beats it down to $300. Next door, in a dimly lit room, the next shift of girls arrives, taking off the black all-covering abayasthey wear outside and putting on lipstick and mascara.
To judge from the cars parked outside, the clients come from all over the Gulf region - many are young Saudi men escaping from an even more conservative moral climate. But the Syrian friend who has brought me here tells me that 95 per cent of the girls are Iraqi.
Most are unwilling to talk, but Zahra, an attractive girl with a bare midriff and tattoos, tells me she's 16. She has been working in this club since fleeing to Syria from Baghdad after the war. She doesn't like it, she says, "but what can we do? I hope things get better in Iraq, because I miss it. I want to go back, but I have to look after my sister". Zahra points to a thin, pubescent girl with long black hair, who seems to be dancing quite happily. Aged 13, Nadia started in the club two months ago.
As the girls dance suggestively, allowing their breasts to brush against each other, one winks at a customer. But these girls are not just providing the floor show - they have paid to be here, and they need to pick up a client, or they'll lose money. If successful, they'll earn about $60, equivalent to a month's wages in a factory.
There are more than a million Iraqi refugees in Syria, many are women whose husbands or fathers have been killed. Banned from working legally, they have few options outside the sex trade. No one knows how many end up as prostitutes, but Hana Ibrahim, founder of the Iraqi women's group Women's Will, puts the figure at 50,000.
I met Fatima in a block of flats operating informally as a brothel in Saida Zainab, a run-down area with a large Iraqi population. Millions of Shias go there every year, because of the shrine of the prophet Mohamed's granddaughter. "I came to Syria after my husband was killed, leaving me with two children," Fatima tells me. "My aunt asked me to join her here, and my brothers pressured me to go." She didn't realise the work her aunt did, and she would be forced to take up, until she arrived.
Fatima is in her mid-20s, but campaigners say the number of Iraqi children working as prostitutes is high. Bassam al-Kadi of Syrian Women Observatory says: "Some have been sexually abused in Iraq, but others are being prostituted by fathers and uncles who bring them here under the pretext of protecting them. They are virgins, and they are brought here like an investment and exploited in a very ugly way."

Friday, March 14, 2008

prostitution

Turmoil in Bihar house over forced prostitution in remand home.
Bihar assembly today plunged into turmoil over alleged torture of inmates of a women's remand home here by authorities to force them into prostitution.
As soon as the house assembled for the day, RJD's Shyam Rajak and others wanted to know the fate of their notice of adjournment motion to discuss the issue, published yesterday in a local Hindi daily.
As Speaker Uday Narain Chaudhary disallowed Rajak from speaking, agitated RJD members including Rajesh Singh, Akhtar-ul-iman, Sunil Kumar Pushpam and others trooped into the well raising slogans against the state government.
Slogans like 'Death to Nitish Kumar Government', 'Down With the Government of Batons and Bullets', were heard as the Speaker ruled that as per norms of parliamentary democracy no adjournment motion could be accepted during the budget session of the house.
"I am deeply concerned that the members are not adhering to parliamentary norms," he said requesting the RJD MLAs to return to their seats and began taking up questions despite the noise.
Replies by ministers to short notice questions were hardly audible in the din.
After nearly 20 minutes of slogan-shouting, the RJD MLAs returned to their seats following an assurance by the chair that he would announce his ruling on the notice after the question hour.

Human Trafficking

Human Trafficking - Becky reports from India on how we fight it!
Tensions Rise in Bihar

Before traveling to Bihar, India's poorest state, I had heard stories of its backwardness, lawlessness, and utter poverty. Sounded exciting to me, and indeed it was.
Forbesganj is a main commercial city in Bihar, situated near the Nepalese border. About ten minutes from the main bizarre is a side street of little huts - the "red light district." Apne Aap runs a Community Center amidst these huts, which serves as a day school for young children and a meeting space for the women in prostitution, or those who have come out.
To my great surprise, 10 women have successfully left prostitution, against overwhelming obstacles, like daily beatings from their husbands, fathers, and brothers for the loss of family income. Moreover, these women have committed to NOT putting their daughters in prostitution, instead sending them to school. These women are forming a Self Help Group and will be the core workers at the production unit, making products for Made by Survivors. I got to meet each of them, go to their houses, and ask some general questions about what they were interested in learning/making. They all said they were just so excited for the opportunity to learn and earn that they are willing to learn any skill. I couldn't talk with the women much on the streets as we were drawing quite a crowd. I am perhaps the first white person to visit, plus these women are inconstant threat from the community. We went with two women back to the Apne Aap community center to talk in depth, and even then a "spy" came to listen through the window and we had to shoo her away.
Nearby the bizarre, Apne Aap runs a residential school for 50 adolescent girls from families affected by forced prostitution. This school is truly a beacon of hope, and the girls are all so cheery and joyous to be there. The mothers, some still trapped in prostitution, are welcome to visit their children, and have really taken an interest in their girls' education. While I was visiting, the girls were practicing for a drama performance to be given this week to American Women's Rights Activist, Ms. Gloria Steinem. The play is about a police raid on a brothel in their town, and how the brothel owner pays off the police and the girls to keep quiet about the exploitation.I was asked to help give direction to the girls, and was faced with one of the most challenging tasks in my lifetime: directing ten-year old girls how to play the part of a trafficker, brothel owner, or prostitute. But, as the Warden of the school explained, these girls grew up in a red light district, so for them it is something they were accustomed to seeing. If we don't talk about it, and pretend it doesn't happen, they may feel ashamed by their background and be more at risk of falling into the same cycle of exploitation. So, despite my initial apprehension, I understood the importance of giving these girls the opportunity to speak against the prostitution that hurt so many of their mothers, grandmothers, and sisters.

Meeting the Traffickers
This morning I arrived at the Bihar train station, a good first impression of the poorest state in India. The three-hour drive to Forbesganj led me along dirt paths, with endless stretches of hay fields, cow pastures, and ghastly thin people performing mundane chores like breaking stones, attaching dung patties to their straw huts, or squatting to relieve themselves. Quite different from the bustling atmosphere of Kolkata.
Forbesganj is situated near the Nepalese border, so it has a sizeable population and busy market place. After a brief tour of the Apne Aap grounds, I got back in the car to drive to a village of Nutt people. This community is sadly known for intergenerational prostitution. Literally, families are entrenched in this profession; the males traffic their own mothers, daughters and sisters into prostitution. Growing up in this community teaches children that it is socially acceptable to either force someone into prostitution or be a prostitute.
I’ve always imagined that I would physically beat any trafficker should I come into contact with him, or her. But today, I was surrounded by at least ten such men, and I just sat quietly in my chair. Two Apne Aap staff members had called a meeting with the villagers to discuss creating a platform for their political, educational and economic rights. This man, Kalam, was born in this village and has been leading the movement to end intergenerational prostitution. Here he smiles with his first passport, which he intends to use to travel and campaign against forced prostitution.
This was quite possibly the most intense meeting I’ve attended while here; I could barely understand the language but when one staff member said “prostitution” the villagers got very upset and shifted in their chairs. For a while, it seemed that they might force us to leave, but then one brave woman spoke up. She is absolutely beautiful; tight, dark skin, weathered eyes, and a smile that could warm the North Pole. I wondered how long she has been trapped in prostitution, probably since she reached puberty. Her voice garnered the support from the other villagers, who eventually seemed to agree that they would want to send their children to school and have access to other economic options.
One idea is to get the villagers into the dairy business, since they have access to large expanses of land for pasturing. Since it is such a remote area, I asked where the majority of buyers come from. Apparently, young men from surrounding villages and school-going men visit this village for sex. It’s hard to imagine, because the village is no more than straw huts with mud floors, a wooden block for a bed, and one small pot for cooking. The wooden block, I reminded myself, is their place of “business.”December 9, 2007

International Day to Abolish Slavery
Saturday and Sunday were World AIDS Day and International Day to Abolish Slavery, two days to be celebrated! So on Saturday we held the inaugural ceremony of Apne Aap’s Income Generation Program. We distributed certificates to the girls who have completed their training in cutting, stitching, and/or embroidery. They were so thrilled to be given this official document, signed by the Managing Trustee and Program Officer responsible for the program.
Afterwards, we asked the girls to talk about their feelings of the program. Their feedback was extremely helpful to our understanding of what works, and what doesn't work, for their daily lives. For example, many of them have household responsibilities that prevent them from coming to the center in the morning, others are forbidden from staying out past dark.
We are also opening a Self Help Group bank account for this group of girls. The joint account will allow them to take small business loans from the bank to pay their expenses. More importantly, these girls will learn how to use a bank account and will have the ownership of their business!
So Happy International Day to Abolish Slavery... through Economic Empowerment!
Freedom is Coming
Friday morning started with a motorcycle ride to a small village outside of Kolkata, where Sanlaap runs their shelter home. I went with a staff member to discuss the new project of removing several girls to live outside the shelter, in a group home. The counselors had selected the girls based on their skills, motivation, and readiness to leave the shelter. They had obvious fears, such as learning to cook for themselves, and then I realized that these girls had never learned basic life skills. Their entire childhood was stolen from the traffickers and brothel owners. The social development skills that I take for granted, like buying my own food, are going to be a new experience for this group of young women. Their fears and apprehensions are completely justified because they have been cheated so horribly in the past. So I was astonished that many of them are not only willing, but truly excited, for the opportunity to live independently.
Currently, the goal is to remove a small group of the girls who will work exclusively on TEN’s Made by Survivors line of products. This group home will serve as a model for other NGOs to follow in their shared vision of successfully re-habilitating and re-integrating survivors.
Before leaving the shelter home, the girls in the tailoring unit informed me that my new outfits were ready. I had selected material last week and they designed Indian Sawarkamees for me. I've already taken orders from my friends and co-workers here for similar outfits - if you want one let me know!

I'm thankful for Mothers
Today, Thanksgiving, was the first Women In Prostitution (WIP) meeting I’ve attended. It was absolutely amazing getting to meet some of the women, who are so beautiful and show concern for their children. We explained the school sponsorship to the women, so that they understand the importance of encouraging their children to study. I tried asking for their child’s birth date, so that the sponsors could send birthday cards or gifts. Some of them remembered; one even had a birth certificate. But the majority would say things like, “She was born on a Friday,” or “It was during the rainy season.” Some of the kids have lost their mother, so I asked them what date they’d like to set as their birthday. One chose Christmas day; another chose India’s Republic Day.
My child continues to amaze me. She got back from school, changed into play clothes, and went outside to the nearby car repair shop to play in the oil. Coming back with black feet, I couldn’t help but laugh. She’s now calling me Mom and even when she’s acting out, she behaves in front of me. Even though they can be “naughty,” it’s for an obvious reason. These children are craving attention and positive reinforcement, so it’s wonderful to see how they’ve developed even that last few months in school.
After we talked about their kids, we turned on some music and danced around the room. The women really enjoyed this expression, and then Bobby (a visiting drama therapist) started a parenting lesson. She asked the women to act out scenes of their daily life where they experienced trouble dealing with their children. This was well received by the women, who are desperate to manage their “naughty” children. Over the next few weeks, Bobby will continue the parenting lessons as well as dramatic expressions for the women.
So this Thanksgiving, I’m thankful for mothers.
Working in Kolkata has its setbacks...
In case any of you are following Kolkata news, you have probably heard about the street rioting, violence, and near state of emergency. It’s certainly an exciting time to be here. Yesterday, for example, we were in the Apne Aap Topsia center, which is a Muslim slum in central Kolkata. Around 2:00, we heard some shouting coming from the streets. A few minutes later, the car horns started, then sirens, and soon everyone in the center was frantically yelling into their cell phones. A staff member explained, “The army is coming, we need to get out now.”
From what I’ve learned, this stems from several things that have snowballed into the current situation.
1) The ruling party, Communist Party of India Marxist, planned to take over land in an area called Nandigram, with the intention of converting the farming land into a chemical plant. The landowners were willing to sell the land, but the farmers who worked the land were terribly upset since it would put them out of a job. So they put so much pressure on those landowners willing to sell, sometimes resorting to violence to push them out. The government responded with force and the area is still a conflict zone.
2) A love marriage between a wealthy Hindu and lower-class Muslim resulted in tragedy; the father of the Hindu bride arranged for the Muslim husband to be murdered. Whether this was a religious or class-based crime is still being debated, but the Muslim community is in uproar.
3) A Bangladeshi poet, Taslima Nasreen, was issued an Indian visa and is currently residing in Kolkata. She writes about women’s rights in ways that offend many of the fundamentalist Muslims here who follow Sharia law. (Think Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues in Taliban-controlled Afghanistan) This community is demanding her visa be revoked and she be sent back to Bangladesh.
4) Political parties that are in opposition to the ruling party (CPIM) have seized on all of these conflicts to spin the message as a political one. They realize that if a state of emergency is declared in West Bengal, the national Indian government will take power until a re-election is called or peace can be restored.
So everyone has something to protest!
One thing I have noticed about all the protests is that there are hardly any women in the crowds. They’re all at home, since the men will obviously be hungry from a long hard day of “work.” Perhaps my mother is right, if I want world peace I need to put estrogen in the public drinking water.
School Sponsorship Updates
We have begun collecting the first letters from the sponsored children to their sponsors. The older girls from the Topsia slum area are able to write their own letters, with a little help from us, and talk about their family and school. They are very keen on learning business skills, as many of them want to find jobs in the coming years. The younger ones are not yet able to write, so they draw pictures and we write for them what they want to tell their sponsors. Most of them talk about their favorite subjects in school, what they want to be when they grow up (a lot of English teachers), and what they like to eat. All of the children are anxious to receive letters and photographs from their sponsors.
It has been a true blessing being able to see the development of these children. Just last January, they were unruly and had never been to a formal school. Now, they are able to sit and concentrate on a task for at least twenty minutes, formulate full sentences, and have done extremely well on their exams. One child placed first in his class for the Math exam! We are planning a field trip to reward them for the hard work.
I can personally say that sponsoring a child is a blessing. My girl is rather naughty, but she has started behaving now that she knows she has an “American Mommy” watching over her. She even gets a bit jealous when I give attention to other children, and wants to show that she can do everything the best!

Holidays and Protests
The festival of lights, Diwali, or Deepawali, was this Friday. Since everything was closed and no work could be done, I spent the morning making candles with some friends before going around the neighborhood to see more pandals. At midnight, Kali Puja began. We went to the local club to see a crowd reciting mantras to Kali, the wife of Shiva. Apparently, she went on a vicious killing spree of all the demons. Shiva was summoned to stop her, and he lay down in front of her. When she stepped on him (it is a grave sin for a wife’s feet to touch her husband) she realized her mistake and stopped the killing.
Sunday I went in search of a nearby church, only to find that it is Greek Orthodox. So I visited the Kalighat Mission of Charity home for the dying and destitute. Quite auspiciously, I came just in time for Catholic Mass, in English. Afterwards, I went to a friend’s flat to celebrate Brother’s Day, when everyone honors their brothers and male cousins with food, gifts, and ceremonial tikhas. While this is great fun, I am disappointed by the lack of Sister’s Day.
Monday was another bandh, political protest, so again everything was closed. The situation is very volatile now between the government and village protestors in Nandigram. More people have been killed and it seems the opposition parties are grouping together against the ruling CPM (Communist Party Marx).

Prostitutions

Over centuries we have been living in a society which comprises people from different strata.The fundamentals which bring us into the social stratum are many.It can be caste, relegion, ethnicity, affluence, poverty so does our profession which earns us our livelihood.When we look back into history we find that, in all ages there have been a divide in the society based on the profession that people pursue.Prostitution have always been considered as an immoral profession by majority of us.Today we are talking about its legalisation.A bill is under conception and soon be presented in the parliament for decrimnalisation of prostitution.Now,the question is "Should prostitution be legalised in India?"
This subject is indeed debatable.There are proponents who say we must go for it.They say the bill, if passed would be a boon for those who are in this business because it will allow them to enjoy the freedom of living a life which is free from all nuances.The bill would provide legal recourse to them against all the evils of society.They will no more be exploited by their customers,pimps,and of course police.
On the other hand,there are some having opposite stand as they beleive legalisation of prostitution would help in expanding this 'immoral' business of renting body to earn money.Given the practical situation of police in India,their habit of exploiting people,are we sure that the existing system would be able to provide adequate security to them?even the opponents stand is pretty logical.But,the major question remained unanswered.
Should prostitution be given same treatment as other professions like engineers,doctors,teachers?
Before making any judgement,we should actually try to delve deeper into the issue.Let us assume that parliamentarians passed the bill,we would like to ask a question to ourselves and it is, if somebody wants to open a brothel in front of our home,would we take it casually.I strongly believe that most of us would not feel comfortable.But why?Because,we have been told since our childhood that this is unethical.Some would say,it's impact on our children can be dangerous.Some people say ok,legalise it but, like old days courtesans,let them live in an area which seggregated from the mainstream residential locality ,then there is no fear of somebody opening up a brothel in front of our house.Therefore, this kind of views ultimately converge to the point that somewhere in our mind,we think that prostitution is not like other profession.According to few prominent surveys,about 80-85% of people are in this business not because of their will but circumstances forced them to do so.We are not ready to accept them,major chunk of them are there unwillingly in this profession.Then what's the solution;how can we stop people from entering into this painful world?
First of all,we must be able to distinguish between 'free prostitution' and 'forced prostitution'.There can be various reasons behind forced prostitution.It can be domestic violence,poverty,unemployment,illetracy,and the most poignant is immoral traficking.Moreover,it's beleived that if a person's upbringing is not proper,if parents failed to inculcate proper moral values to their children then they are more likely to fall prey.As I already said majority of prostitutes are in the business unwillingly and only small chunk is pursuing it with free will.So the point is, if we can somewhow mitigate the number of people flowing into this world via the route of `forced prostitution' we can definitely make a difference.In my view, the way to bring such a change is to provide each and everyone in the society without regard of any discrimination with an equal opportunity towards literacy,employment,basic infrastructure,economic growth.Indeed, if we target to eliminate the root cause we can definitely bring them to the mainstream.I would suggest our parliamentarians that passing a bill would not suffice instead,we must identify the root cause of the problem and target the same at grassroot level.

Decriminalisation of prostitution,What's your stand?

Over centuries we have been living in a society which comprises people from different strata.The fundamentals which bring us into the social stratum are many.It can be caste, relegion, ethnicity, affluence, poverty so does our profession which earns us our livelihood.

Turmoil in Bihar house over forced prostitution in remand home

PATNA: Bihar assembly on Wednesday witnessed uproarious scenes over alleged torture of inmates of a women’s remand home here by authorities to force them into prostitution.As soon as the house assembled for the day, RJD’s Shyam Rajak and others wanted to know the fate of their notice of adjournment motion to discuss the matter which was published on Tuesday in a local Hindi daily.As speaker Uday Narain Chaudhary disallowed Rajak from speaking, agitated rjd members including Rajesh Singh, Akhtar-ul-Iman, Sunil Kumar Pushpam and others trooped into the well raising slogans against the state government.Slogans like ‘death to Nitish Kumar government’, ‘down with the government of batons and bullets’, were heard as the speaker ruled that as per norms of parliamentary democracy no adjournment motion could be accepted during the budget session of the house.“I am deeply concerned that the members are not adhering to parliamentary norms,” he said requesting the RJD MLAs to return to their seats and began taking up questions despite the noise. Replies by ministers to short notice questions were hardly audible in the din.After nearly 20 minutes of slogan-shouting, the RJD MLAs returned to their seats following an assurance by the chair that he would announce his ruling on the notice after the question hour. The matter was raised once again by Rajak during Zero hour and the speaker ruled that the notice for adjournment motion was rejected for not being in order, plunging the house into chaos.Leader of the opposition Rabri Devi, Rajak and others were seen waving copies of the daily and engaging in heated arguments with the chair.Chief Minister Nitish Kumar said he had gone through the newspaper report and asked the concerned officers to go into its veracity and inform him.“I have directed the concerned officers, including the secretary of the social welfare department to go into the matter and submit a report.I have also asked a person from the newspaper house, which has claimed it has recorded evidence of the alleged torture, to make it available to me and I assure you that appropriate action will be initiated against the guilty after a thorough inquiry,” he said.Order was then restored in the house, which then took up other listed business.The notice alleged that the remand home authorities at Gaighat, including its Superintendent had assaulted the inmates on Sunday after they refused to join a prostitution racket at their bidding.It said though a committee was constituted to look into the prostitution racket being run by the remand home authorities after a complaint was received a few months ago, no step was taken to check it.

Friday, February 15, 2008

Beauty-Parlour


Beauty-Parlour Raided
On tuesday night the Kotwali Police Party raided two beauti parlours and arrested three young girls and a youth were arrested by the police team. All the three girls were accused of prostitution who do run the flesh racket under the masque of being beauticians. The arrested youth has been said to be the customer who went their for have a massage. A case has been lodged in Kotwali Police station under the illegal trade activities act. Earlier on tuesday night the "New Paradise" in Loknayak Bhawan and "Darpan" in Maurya Lok Complex both in Dakbunglow road, the heart of the capital city, were raided by the police team on getting tips from its internal sources. With the said raid and arrests of 3 prostitutes the parallel parlours doing the same job got their shutter down on the tuesday night itself and fled.It is well known that over period of year the state capital has become one of the most favourite place for the prostitutes and pimps. Accounting to 95% of the total flesh trade is being handled from the beauty parlors. According to official sources in the police HQ, there is a unnatural surge in the number of beauty parlours in the city. Kotwali, Buddha Colony, Fraser Road, Station Area and Exhibition Road is the most favourite hangouts for their customers. Over 500 beuty shops are handling these activities. Once sacred Kankarbagh Colony known for its residential texture only have been witnessing inception of such beauty parlours every month.



Wednesday, February 6, 2008

MUZAFFARPUR

MUZAFFARPUR: The infamous Chaturbhuj Sthan here is buzzing with excitement. A former tawaif, Rani Begum, now in her mid-40s, has been elected ward councillor of the Muzaffarpur Municipal Corporation from the ward no. 16 which includes a large chunk of one of the oldest red-light areas of Bihar. Chaturbhuj Sthan is said to have a recorded history of more than 100 years, and it is home to about 1,000 sex workers. Ecstatic supporters of Rani Begum took out a procession to celebrate her victory. Slogans like “Ward councillor kaisi ho, Rani Begum jaisi ho” rent the air as elegantly dressed former tawaif and her troop of dancing girls went around the ward. “My efforts will be to solve the problems of my ward, and if I get a chance, I will make the city better,” she remarked while insisting that her victory has a lot to do with the support of her admirers. Her supporters say Rani Begum wants to become the mayor of Muzaffarpur, the second largest city in Bihar after its bifurcation. “For three decades Rani Begum remained the heartthrob at numerous marriage receptions. On several occasions in the past marriage was fixed or cancelled depending on whether Rani would perform in it or not,” stated Lakshman Singh, a resident of the locality. Even at a place like Chaturbhuj Sthan, which is one of the hotbeds of crime in the state according to intelligence reports, few dare to do a thing that displeases her. “Her political links are very strong, and the police have never dared to conduct a raid on her house,” observed a local resident. However, sex workers appear to be happy with the “social change” as reflected in the municipal elections held in the state after about 18 years. “Eighteen years ago, nobody could have thought of a tawaif contesting elections. This time Rani Begum and a few others contested the polls,” said an aged sex worker. Though Chaturbhuj Sthan still has tawaifs armed with licence performing before select groups of audience, the remains of an era when landlords used to patronise such dancing girls, the business is clearly going downhill. The entry of satellite TV has clearly hit their business. Yet Chaturbhuj Sthan continues to thrive. Not because of its majestic tawaifs but due to the flesh trade. Two-thirds of the girls residing here are reported to be in the flesh trade. “There are two parts of Chaturbhuj Sthan; in one part, there are dancing girls having the licence; the other part is a red-light area,” said Muzaffarpur SP R K Singh. He stated that the flesh trade cannot be tackled only legally. There has to be a social pressure. Most of the sex workers in this area are aged between 14 and 18, who have been brought here by tricking them into love or marriage. Trade operators in the red-light area are well connected. Even when he conducts raids and arrests them, their touts manage to get them released within two days, the SP added. Police officials refer to numerous incidents when they have made futile attempts to remove such girls from Chaturbhuj Sthan. Ultimately, more than 90 per cent of the girls are forced to return to the trade.


Monday, February 4, 2008

Prostitution

वैश्यावृती- देह व्यापार या एक मजबूरी